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The Three Loves of Our Lives

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In this Monday morning, with my wistful eyes, I opened my Twitter account and found a tweet that contained some familiar paragraphs for me. I’d read those paragraphs one day somewhere. It was about how we fall in love with 3 people in our lifetime.

We fall in love with 3 people in our lifetime. Each one for a specific reason.

First love: This love often happens at a young age. You eventually grow apart or call it quits over silly things. When you get older, you may look back and think it wasn’t love. But the truth is, it was. It was love for what you knew love to be.

Remember: there are different depths of love.

Second love: The hard one. You get hurt in this one. This love teaches us lessons and makes us stronger. This love includes great pain, lies, betrayal, abuse, drama, and damage. But this is the one where we grow. We realize what we love about love and what we don’t love about love.

Now we know the difference between good and bad humans. Now we become closed, careful, cautious, and considerate. We know exactly what we want and don’t want.

Third love: This one comes blindly. No warning. It creeps up on you silently. You don’t go looking for this love. It comes to you.

You can put up any wall you want, it will be broken down. You’ll find yourself caring about that person without trying. They look nothing like your usual crush types, but you get lost in their eyes daily. You see beauty in their imperfections. You hide nothing from them. You want marriage and family with them. You thank the universe for them. You truly love them.

I know exactly where each of my ex-lovers belongs in their phase. Who is in the first phase, or who are in the second phase. But this post isn’t about them. This is about the 3rd phase. I feel like I’ve been in this phase since January 2017. I met a woman one day, without warning or looking for her. I met her; she was my childhood friend. We hadn’t met for more than 7 years. She is unique, cuek yet charming. Days, weeks, and months passed, until today. Wow, it’s been 3 years. Happy 3rd anniversary, lol (?) I’m just kidding.

I hope she is in my third and last phase. I try to make myself worthy of her love. I promised her that one day I’ll ask for her dad’s permission to make her my life’s companion. Insya Allah. I know we’re getting closer to 25, but please wait for me a little more.

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